Personal & Spiritual Development

Beginning in July of this year, my husband Dobes and I had been doing some “relationship coaching” with relationship coach Alfred Depew.  We were coaching Alfred on getting his business accounting in order with our small business accounting software and in exchange, he offered us the opportunity to do some relationship coaching with him.

Personally, I found relationship coaching to be very…well, I can’t seem to come up with the right word…let’s just say — insightful.  While I have been told I am very “intuitive”, I always have this deep desire to know more about Dobes - what he is thinking, how he is feeling, what is important to him, what inspires him, what doesn’t…  This desire can also be problematic at times because he has mentioned on numerous occasions that he feels he has “no privacy”.  What can I say?  He did pick a wife that is highly intuitive with great deductive reasoning abilities.

Relationship coaching gave me new access to understanding Dobes in the way in which he understands himself.  What I have realized about humans in general is that we do not always understand ourselves; and therefore, we are often at lost with how we can communicate our thoughts and feelings.  During our relationship coaching sessions, we do fun little exercises that allow us to explore our visions and feelings separately and then sharing our thoughts and feelings with each other.

This process also made me realized how synchronized we are.  During one of the relationship coaching sessions, our coach Alfred asked us to pick a symbol that we could use to represent our relationship.  When this question was asked, I just had the thought of something “shinny” and “already knowing” and Dobes thought of a “shooting star”.  Based on our findings, we have decided that the symbol of our relationship is an already knowing shooting star.

On the same night we agreed on our relationship symbol, my mother had a dream which she shared with us the next day when we visited her.  She asked me, “have you thought out a name for your son?”  (I am pregnant).  “No” I said to my mother.  My mother said, “I have a Chinese name for him!” My mother said we should name him “Huai Yu” — which means “to be embraced by the universe”.  I was astonished that she could come up with this name.  I asked her, “Mom! How did you happen to come across this name?” And this is where things got really interesting…

My mother said, “Well, I was having a dream last night that a shooting star came straight towards my head and entered from one end of my head and out the other, leaving behind the name “Huai Yu” fixed in my head…so I got up and quickly wrote it down before going back to sleep so I wouldn’t forget…”

I swear, since I have gotten pregnant, my mother has gotten psychic or something.  We had just chosen a shooting star as our relationship symbol that very day and she has a dream that a shooting star entered her head with my baby’s name.  I sometimes wonder why I didn’t have such a cool dream like that.

Not even a month after naming my son, my mother said to me, “Oh! I have a name for your next child!”
“And how did YOU come up with that name?” I asked with intense curiosity.
“Her brother told me her name” My mother said.

Ok, let me get this straight, my unborn child is telling my mother his own name AND his “sister’s” name - a being that has not been “conceived” yet.  When I asked my mother what the girl’s name would be, she refused to tell me, saying I should at least get pregnant with a girl first.  I am not even done being pregnant with my first child and she is already telling me about my second child - correction, my son had already told my mother about his sister.  I said to my mother, “mom, your memory is not so good, maybe you should just tell me the girl’s name now so you won’t forget”. My mother responded by saying, “don’t worry, her brother will remind me.”

This is very strange coming out of a woman that considers herself a catholic and generally skeptical of psychics and past-lives…

For logistic reasons we have decided to give this unborn baby a Western name of “Dante” and a Chinese name of “Huai Yu”.

Hopefully he will come out soon, today is my due date and I am sort of sick of being pregnant…

 

It has been a long time since I have written in this blog.  I have mainly been focused on the my small business accounting software and writing on the business blog.  But I keep feeling like there is some unfinished business here on Manifestation Stories. 

Previously on Manifesting a Man Part 1 & 2

In Manifesting a Man Part 1 and Part 2, we have examined issues surrounding believability and limiting beliefs when it comes to attracting a man (or woman) in your life.  In Manifesting a Man Part 3, I am going to talk about commitment.

Showing the Universe that we are “Serious”

The concept of “commitment” may be used in a different context in this discussion.  Here we think of commitment as — what are we thinking/ feeling/ doing that shows the universe that we are serious in our intentions.  Many women (or men) might say to themselves, “I really want a man in my life”, but they do nothing to show the universe this is what they want.  In fact, I have run across people that have said, “I really want a man in my life, but I don’t really want to go out and meet anyone.  It is simply too scary.”

Now I must clarify that if a person is truly an expert in aligning himself / herself vibrationally with their desires, they could sit in the living room and meditate and things would materialize for them.  It is a wild idea, I know, but in theory, this should be possible.  It is only impossible because we believe it is impossible.  I could sit in my living room and try to manifest a plate of Chinese stir fry noodles and it wouldn’t just appear in front of me because I honestly don’t believe it is possible.

I have several friends who have told me that they feel lonely and they would like to be in a relationship.  However, the relationship hasn’t been materializing for them because they are not showing the universe total commitment in wanting to be in a relationship.  Let me give you some examples:

Friend #1

Friend #1 consulted a psychic medium who told her that she will meet her soul mate in 3 years.  So far in the first year of this knowledge, she has turned down 13 dates.  Why?  Here are her considerations:

• she would be taking the chances away from other women who were supposed to be with men who asked her out
• she would be taking the chances away from men who asked her out to meet their soul mates
• she would be wasting her time dating them if she knew she was going to meet “the one” in 3 years
• she would not be single when her Mr. Right shows up

Here is my opinion on the matter:

Energy is a funny thing.  The more you celebrate the things you get, the more you get it.  In the case of dating and relationships, I have noticed a pattern and I will use myself as an example.

May is single => May goes to work and social functions and noticed other good looking guys, but no one asks her out => one guy makes a comment that he thought May was beautiful => May started to have guys who make the effort to come and talk to her and trying to get to know her better => she started getting asked out for coffee => she started getting asked out for coffee by several guys => she started getting asked out for lunch / dinners => one guy asked her to be his girlfriend => an ex asked for a second chance => another guy was showing more interest in her => May starts to date one guy => things got serious => he asked her to marry him => some other guy half jokingly proposed to May too at the same time…

The point of this is to illustrate that things come in waves.  It is like trying to tune the radio to a station, you get some fuzziness before you get a clear signal.  The fuzziness is sometimes necessary to give us a chance to exercise discernment and observe contrasts.  For example, when guys were asking me out, I can use this opportunity to go out with them and pick and choose which qualities I want or did not want in a guy.  I can also use this opportunity to clarify my own desires for the universe.

Friend #2

There is not one time in which I hang out with this friend did he not complain about how miserable he is regarding the way his last relationship ended 3 years ago and how he feels lonely.  He signed up for some online dating websites and recently was sent a match by one of the dating websites.  The match he got was a girl he used to have a crush on who happened to be on the same website!  Now, if he was sent a match, she would have been sent the same match about him.  So what does this friend do?  He totally rejected the possibility of connecting with her even though they had met in person a year ago at a party.  Now that really shows some commitment to the universe that he is serious about wanting a relationship. 

I have been playing match making on my spare time and I have recently looked up one of his friends with a girl I met at a restaurant.   I am in the process of trying to hook up another friend of his.  This does not make friend #2 very happy because he feels like I am taking away all his friends.  In fact, he even tries to sabotage things a bit by “forgetting” to send me his friend’s contact details so I can pass it on to a girl I met at a seminar.  He feels left out that I didn’t consider matching him up.  The truth is, both girls I have matched his friends up for are somewhat average in appearance based on his standards.  Both of the friends I have set these girls up for usually think most women are beautiful.  Friend #2 is really attracted to tall and blond girls because his ex was tall and blond.  That really narrows things down a lot.  Not that it is a bad thing, the universe rewards those who are specific, but I think he is sending the wrong signals to the universe by complaining about not having a girlfriend, not making a move when he was sent a match who he used to have a crush on 10 years ago, and being envious of his friends who are being matched up and trying to sabotage things.  Clearly, he is not showing the universe he is committed in being in a relationship.

What are you showing the universe?

Examine your actions and behaviours to see if you are sending mixed signals to the universe.  If you would like to meet someone, go out, tell friends that you want to, go online, attend gatherings, put yourself in a space in which the universe can send someone to you.  Sitting alone at home and complaining about being single do not show the universe you are serious about putting yourself in alignment with meeting someone.  Turning away dates and online dating match ups without even a single try also shows a lack of commitment in your willingness to experience what the universe has to offer.

 

Previously on Manifesting a Man:

I have been repeatedly asked by women seeking to manifest a man of their dreams why they couldn’t / haven’t been able to attract the right person into their lives.  In the last post, Manifesting a Man Part 1, I wrote about a story of a woman who was clear on the characteristics she wanted in a man but ended up with a male cat with all the characteristics of her dream hunk.  Believe me, she is not alone.  I have had women telling me that they found the man with the perfect characteristics except he is, 20 years too young, married, gay..etc

I have also outlined the 3 major barriers to manifesting our intentions:

1. Limiting Beliefs: what are some of the beliefs you may have adopted in your past that no longer serve you?
2. Believability: do you really think that your desires are possible?
3. Commitment: how committed am I to attain / attract my desires?

Limiting Beliefs
The universe is very funny in how it manifests our desires.  The universe cannot distinguish between what we want and what we do not want, it only responds to what we give our attention to.  This applies to both our conscious desires as well as our subconscious feelings and beliefs.  When we hold on to beliefs that no longer serve us in manifesting our desires, these beliefs become “limiting beliefs”.  Limiting beliefs are tricky because it can plague us both on a conscious level and on a subconscious level.  Most of the time, a lot of our limiting beliefs exist on a subconscious level.  Since the universe cannot distinguish your feelings from the consciously level and the subconscious level, it is often confused by the intentions we create for ourselves. 

Since we are on the topic of trying to manifest a man, I shall pick an example for our discussion…

My parents had a turbulent relationship.  My father began dating my mother soon after he got his heart broken by an ex-girlfriend.  My parents got married 6 months after they began dating each other (can anyone smell “rebound” here?).  The marriage was turbulent from the start beginning with a huge argument during their honeymoon.  After less than a year of being together, my father suggested to my mother that they should consider splitting up and getting a divorce.  My mother was not going to have any of this.  She didn’t want to “look bad” to her friends and family and she thought if she would get pregnant, she could make my dad stay… BIG MISTAKE.

Long story short, my dad left, leaving my mother, my twin sister and I behind.  He left us the day before grade one for 5 years, came back for another 4 years, then finally divorced my mother and left again indefinitely.  Ever since the age of 7, my sister and I have been hearing never ending complaints about my father and his irresponsible ways and how men are so unreliable. 

You can probably see where this is going.  I began dating when I was 21 years of age (yes, I was a late bloomer).  My first boyfriend and I were together for almost two years.  He was trying desperately to get into medical school at the time and when he didn’t get into med school due to lack of traveling experiences, he left to go work somewhere else in another country to improve his credentials. 

Limiting Belief: Men will always leave

The second boyfriend came around and he was already in medical school in the same city I was living in, but I thought I should better leave him before he leaves me.  So, I left to go to another country to pursuit of a doctorate degree myself!  Pretty cool eh? When I finally decided to return to my home town, this medical student boyfriend of mine got a residency position in another city, 5 hours plane ride away.  Needless to say, he left anyways.

After this had happened, I took the Landmark Education and realized that I have this limiting belief that “men leave”.  I was so hurt that I decided to close my eyes to the world of men.  For a long time, I didn’t really have any serious relationships.

Limiting Belief: There are no good men out there

No wonder I couldn’t find anyone good, even if there was a nice guy that showed up right in front of me, I wouldn’t even notice his existence.  Recently I learned that when we have limiting beliefs, we often have to ignore something in order for the limiting belief to remain true.  For example, if I held the limiting belief that “men will always leave”, I will always get myself into relationships with men that will leave.  And if he doesn’t leave, I’ll push him away so that he would leave.

So, I decided to declare that I shall open my eyes to men and be open to possibilities that show up.  Soon after I made this choice, a great man showed up in my life.  This man is self-aware, gentle, and patient.  While I was mildly aware that I still had this limiting belief that “men leave”, I wasn’t as diligent with addressing this limiting belief.  Luckily for me, this wonderful man who is now my husband was able to identify this limiting belief of mine and reminded me of it every time when I tried to push him away.  Lucky me! 

Eliminating Limiting Beliefs

This week a woman asked me how she could eliminate her limiting beliefs about men so she could successfully attract a wonderful man in her life.  There are many ways of addressing limiting beliefs and the first step to disappearing any limiting beliefs is to become aware of them. 

Awareness

Awareness is the process of identifying our thoughts and beliefs and the meaning we have given those thoughts and beliefs.  While this seems to be a relatively easy task, what I am noticing is that many thoughts and beliefs are hidden.  We also have many limiting beliefs that are normalized by us over the course of our time here.  For example, for many cultures around the world, it is quite common to assume that women are housewives and men are breadwinners.  There are also some places around the world in which men can have many wives.  Not that this is particularly right or wrong, it just is for many people.  Back in my colleage days, a woman who was the teacher for the religion of Islam in my religious studies class told me that a woman would often urge her husband to take in additional wives so that she could have other “sisters” to hang out with.  I don’t think these women get to hang out outside of the house much and they are very lonely with the company of “the other wives”.

The point of the discussion here is that many of our limiting beliefs have been normalized by us and we no longer see them as limiting beliefs.  A good example a limited belief that I had was “no Chinese man will be able to stand me”.  My mother said that to me when I was around 14, citing my rebellious ways will upset traditional Chinese men.  I ended up marrying a white guy…

For the purpose of trying to attract a man, it is important to look at what you really think about men.  I recently came up with a great assignment which is:

Write a journal entry titled: What I think about men.

Since this is structured like a journal entry, there is no need to worry about grammar or sentence structure.  It is best to write out whatever comes to your head, good or bad, strange or normal.  Just write.  At the end of it all, read it over yourself or have someone else read it for you.  You might uncover interesting things…

This is a lot like looking into a mirror.  This is not the kind of mirrors we have in our bathrooms, but rather, the kind of mirrors that reflect our deepest thoughts and desires.  So far, I have identified several different methods of self reflection that have worked for me so far.

1. Write in a Journal and have a conscious being read it. 
   This may include yourself.  When I did a lot of writing when I was upset, I found my writing to be quite amusing to read later.  I also found that I was able to solve my own problems by writing out my thoughts and feelings. 
2. Find a wise friend to speak to. 
   You might have noticed that not all friends are wise and not all wise people are friends.  Most of the time, your friends are the ones that react to the same situations you are reacting to because they are your friends.  However, a wise being will not react to anything you say.  For example, if a friend tells me: “the field of men is like a crowded parking lot, all the good spots are taken and the only spots left are handicapped”, I would say, “if this is what you believe, it will become your reality”.  Not a nice comment to make at all, but I really do not want to say things like, “I know! Where are all the good guys?” 
3. Attend a personal development workshop.
   I highly recommend this one because when I go to personal development workshops such as the Landmark Forum, a group of people like myself gather together in one room and they talk about the “stories” and “crap” that is happening in their lives.  They talk about their past conditioning and how much their parents are to blame for the failures in their lives.  While sitting in the room and listening to these stories (and offering a few of my own of course), I found that I am not alone, there are many other people out there that was as screwed up as I am! Some how, these stories act as a mirror for my subconscious.  I see myself in other peoples’ stories and how ridiculous my thoughts can be about certain situations.  I call this “popping”.  It was like a limiting belief that popped out from my subconscious mind into my conscious mind, making it possible for me to be more aware of my thoughts and feelings.
4. Get a coach.
   The field of coaching is a relatively new and misunderstood one.  When working with a coach, all he/she does is ask you questions–digging deeper down from the conscious into the subconscious with each and every question.  This is an extremely effective strategy to gain awareness.  If you don’t have any friends who are wise, get a wise coach!

 That’s it for this section, I think this must be the longest blog post I have ever written and there are still two more points to cover: believability and commitment.

Until next time…

 

This is not the first time such a question came up for me.  While I have successfully manifested a great man for myself, I often get into discussions with women (and sometimes men!) who are attempting to attract great men into their lives.  It amazes me how many people know about “The Secret” and are practicing very specific techniques to  manifesting their dreams.  However, there are some crucial elements of manifesting our intentions that are being largely ignored.  Here is a funny manifestation flop I have encountered:

Mr. Feline?

Recently during my personal development binge, I met a woman in her 50s named Michelle (not her real name) who has been largely alone for many years.  Michelle told me she really wanted to manifest a man in her life.  Like many people who have watched The Secret, she began to make a list of very specific qualities of the man she would like to have in her life.  She really wanted someone who is: extremely friendly, always happy to see her, makes her laugh all the time, cuddly, and understanding.  Sounds like a great list to me… 

One day, she walked into the local SPCA (where stray animals await for adoption into a kind and loving home) in search of a female cat.  Michelle thought a female cat was easier to handle and she saw a black and white coloured one she fell in love with right away.  There was only one catch.  The black and white female cat has a brother with a black coat that was very closed to her.  The people at the SPCA were adamant that they would only offer two cats at once instead of separating the siblings.  To Michelle’s great dismay, she took both cats home because she really loved the female cat. 

In the weeks following the adoption of her cats, Michelle began to notice something interesting.  The black male cat has a very warm personality of his own.  He is extremely friendly and cuddly.  He would wait by the door patiently for her to come home and follow her around the house joyfully and lovingly every day.  He does things to make her laugh and loves to play with her whenever he can.  When Michelle feels unwell, this little black cat would curl up beside her to keep her bed warm for her.

Michelle began to realized that the universe had given her everything she was looking for with one exception, he is not a MAN! 

A Clear Intention is NOT Good Enough

There is a myth that what we think are our clear intentions is sufficient to manifesting what we want.  However, it seems our spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical selves can be incredibly complex and confusing.  There are so many elements to consider when attempting to manifest our dreams that even I am only beginning to uncover some of the intricacies of what is keeping me from manifesting my desires.

Here are some crucial elements I have identified as important when trying to manifest my dreams :

1. Believability: do I really think that my dreams are possible?
2. Limiting Beliefs: what are some of the beliefs I may have adopted in my past that no longer serve me?
3. Commitment: how committed am I to attain / attract my desires?

Coming Soon

In the next few blog posts, I will discuss the implications of the hidden elements that prevent intentions from manifesting in real life.  I will also provide some tips on how to improve your chances of manifesting what you REALLY want.

 

I has been a long time since I have last written in my blog.  Don’t get me wrong, I love writing and I have done a lot of learning since the last time I have written something.  I have been on a personal development binge lately; beginning with reviewing the Landmark Forum and taking a 5 day workshop called “Quantum Mind Mastery” with Dov Baron at the Baron Mastery Institute.  Part of the reasons why my husband and I went on a personal development binge was because there are just so many things happening in our lives right now.  One week shy of our first wedding anniversary, we are launching our easy accounting software for small businesses and self-employed people, 5 months pregnant with our first baby, and creating a loving marriage all at the same time.  We recognized that by the time the baby is born at the end of November, we will be managing 3 different types of relationships as a married couple, as business partners, and as parents.  This is why this year is the year of our personal development binge, where we are trying raise our vibration and gain as many skills as possible to joyfully create our past, present, and future together. 

The personal development courses so far have been extremely helpful in examing my limiting beliefs.  What I have gained most through my personal development binge so far is a deeper understanding my husband’s beliefs and challenges as well as recognizing how much I have transformed since taking the Landmark Forum for the first time and watching “The Secret” in 2006. 

One thing is for sure, I have transformed a lot since I walked on the “path” 2 years ago.  It seems to be natural for many people to be ignorant of the transformations that have occurred because it happened so gradually over time.  Only when we came across close friends and family members at least 6 months to a year of not seeing each other or revisiting the a personal development experience will we realize how much we have transformed.  Taking the Landmark Forum again this time after 2 years showed me some great revelations about myself.  The first thing I have noticed is that the issues I have had to address 2 years ago no longer existed.  Those issues have either been completely resolved or have taken a different shape and form.  For example, I used to blame my mother for my failing relationships with men and my lack of confidence.  Now, I am not dealing with failing relationships with men, in fact, I am very happily married and awaiting the arrival of our first child.  I have also worked through my issues with confidence and able to perform at networking events and business functions with confidence and ease.  This time around at the Landmark Education, the most significant breakthrough for me was disappearing the fear of motherhood and proclaiming my intention to be a loving and powerful mother. 

While I am complete with blaming my mother for what used to be my lack of success in life and romantic relationships, I did not realize how many limiting beliefs I had about being a mother.  When I first found out I was pregnant, I felt weak and powerless; ugly and unwanted.  I have had many breakdowns around this issue until I went to the landmark forum for the second time since 2006.  What I realized was, my mother continued with her pregnancy of my twin sister and I when my father had no desire to have children and then using children as a weapon against my dad to get money and power.  This resulted in my mother being poor, powerless, abandoned, and depressed.  Subsequently, my mother tried to gain her power and confidence by putting down her children through verbal, emotional, and physical abuse.  On a subconscious level, I had a deep seated fear that I would become my mother.  I was afraid that my husband would leave me as I tummy began to grow and I fear that I will become a poor and powerless single mother. 

This was a hard one to take because during the Landmark Forum, I began to feel the movements of my baby inside my tummy.  I thought of this being I am bringing to this world and my overwhelming desire to give this baby the best I could ever offer.   Recognizing my fear of becoming my mother was the most heart breaking, and liberating experience I could have before this baby comes along.  I realized that I would not be able to set the intention to be a loving and powerful mother if I did not become aware of the limiting beliefs that were planted deeply within my subconscious. 

 

Recently I have been entertaining the idea of giving the universe some rather outrageous requests.  I heard from somewhere that if my dreams are realistic, then my dreams are too small.  Therefore, I have been toying with the idea of really dreaming BIG and focusing my attention on my dreams on a daily basis.

Previously on my blog post Manifesting Money I wrote about how I manifested $100,000 in annual income.  This time around, I am going to set my income goal publicly here on Manifestation Stories so that I can give an income report by the tax season.

Before I state my income goal for the year of 2008, I want to talk a bit about the process of manifestation…

A few months ago I came across an excellent article by personal development guru Steve Pavlina titled How Intentions Manifest that details the sequence of how intentions become physical realities.  Some of the interesting concepts Steve had presented were the presence of Alpha Reflections and Beta Reflections with any given intention.  According to Steve, the alpha reflection usually appears 24 to 72 hours after an intention has been declared.  The Alpha Reflection may come in the form of synchronicities or some other types of validation from the universe saying that it has acknowledged the intention.  The Beta Reflection comes weeks, months, or even years later in the form of actual opportunities and/or inspiration about how to achieve the intended outcome.

Ever since I read this article, I have always wondered how these alpha and beta reflections present themselves because I really haven’t been paying a lot of attention to their presence.  However, I got my first taste of an alpha reflection this week after declaring my income goal on paper.

Here is what happened:

Three days ago I declared that I intend to make $300,000 in the year 2008.  Now to give you an idea of where I am at right now, my husband and I are hardly making any money because we have been busy developing our online accounting software called Clarity Accounting.  It is a simple online accounting software for small businesses and individual consultants and my husband has been developing this piece of software on a part-time basis over the last 9 months. 

The next day after I had put down my intention on paper, we went to a meeting with an advisor with IRAP – a Canadian government initiative to provide research funding for technology companies.  The advisor we are working with has created and sold two IT start-ups and now he spends his time providing guidance for technology start-up companies.  During our meeting I asked the advisor what he thought of our software and its potential and this was what he said, “I think you guys have a great idea and you are definitely on the right track.  In fact, if I would say that your company is probably worth about $250,000 right now.”

I couldn’t believe my ears, did he  say $250,000? We don’t even have any customers yet and we are already worth $250,000!! With an additional equity of $100,000 in our downtown apartment, we are now looking at $350,000 in net worth!  If this does not fit the definition of an alpha reflection, I don’t know what else could explain how someone could tell me that I am already worth $300,000!!  I now refer to the alpha reflection as a wink from universe telling me that my intention has been acknowledged and now I just have to keep focusing on my wonderful intention daily and start watching out for the Beta Reflections.  When I experience it, I will no doubt write another big blog post about it and give it a cute title like er…I don’t know, I’ll find a nice title when I get there~~~

In fact, this incident has prompted me to give the universe a more specific intention:
Dear Universe, I intend to make $300,000 in revenue by December 30th, 2008.

This incident got me thinking about the idea that I already have everything I want and everything I could ever want is already in existence.  It may be in a different form right now as energy can be transferred from one form to another.  Just like ice, water, and steam are basically the same thing with different energy compositions.  For example, the downtown penthouse I want to live in is already in existence and we are just waiting for the right time for a change of ownership!

Needless to say, I am excited and amazed at the wink I have been given from the universe, I can’t wait to see what kind of inspiration and opportunities will come my way in the next coming weeks / months!

 

Sometimes life is so good, I don’t even know how good it is until a contrast occurs…

I have been extremely productive over the last few weeks.  I attribute that to the discipline of setting weekly intentions.  The following is a sample of my weekly intentions that I got from attending a trial of the Procoach Success Systems by master certified coach Andrew Barber-Starkey:

weekly-intentions.pdf

If any of you would like this in an excel file, please do not hesitate to email me at may@manifestationstories.com. 

The original weekly intentions consisted of only “what will I do” but I have also incorporated some of the things I have learned from reading the book, Ask and It is Given by Ester Hicks and included a section called “Requests for the Universe”.  Filling out this form on a weekly basis has jump started my own  productivity drastically in the last month or so.   Interestingly, I have found that while I still have issues about setting realistic goals for myself under the “What I will do” section, the “Requests for the Universe” section has always been fulfilled for me. 

Unintentional Existence

I only realized how effective weekly planning has been for me when I started to slack off from my habit of setting weekly intentions towards achieving what I want to do.  Approximately two weeks ago, I got lazy one weekend and decided not to fill out my weekly intentions form and went on with my life.  The following week was still quite busy with many activities that had trickled over from the previous weeks, but by this week, I found myself to have nothing to do and feeling incredibly unmotivated to do anything.  The truth is, there is still a lot to be done, but by the mere act of not intending to “do” the things needed to be done, nothing gets done.  So far this week, I have gotten nothing done besides hanging out with my friends.

I am beginning to realize that most of the population probably go about their daily lives without any specific plans or intentions — leading to people to react to situations they come across.  I hypothesize that many people actually live through their lives by reacting rather than intending.  I guess if I never knew what it was like to live life with intention, I probably wouldn’t know what it truly feels like to go through my life without actively intending my desires.  This is a concept called “contrast”.  People experience contrast when they come across something, someone, and/or a situation they do not want.  The simple awareness of recognizing what they do not want can point them into the right direction of what they want.  The problem is that some people get fixated on what they do not want instead of thinking of the kind of experiences they would rather attract into their lives.

At the present moment, I am acutely aware that I don’t like having an unintentional existence.  This is a contrast that is helping me to point myself back into the direction of seeking an intentional existence.  My goal is to make up a weekly intention for the rest of the week starting tomorrow (it is almost time for bed) and jump start my life back in the direction of having an intentional existence.

 

It has been three months since I started my Manifestation Stories blog and the journey has been absolutely amazing.  Although I have not had the chance to post consistently on a weekly basis, I am proud to say that I have met some friends — readers who found my blog and sent me comments and emails and shared their dreams and stories with me. 

Last night I received a question from a reader asking:

“I set the intention to be in a stable home before summer. At present it seems impossible but I have witnessed many miracles in my life and I’m not going to put this one as impossible. My question is: If for some reason it doesn’t happen, could it be something that I did wrong?”

Here is my response:

I sincerely believe we are the creators of our own reality and that when we dream, we really want to dream big.  I have heard people say that if your dream was able to be fulfilled by something you can do, your dream probably isn’t big enough.  
  
I would like to offer some of my opinions to your question (the key word here is ‘opinions’). 
 
It has recently come to my attention with the wonderful teachers I have attracted into my life regarding the importance of “receiving”.  It is like the last frontier in the journey of manifesting our realities and I am going to a seminar next Saturday to learn about how I can fully receive my desires.
 
There are certain important elements to think of:
 
1.  Do you truly believe your desires can manifest?
 
This is an important one because it is not something we can be consciously aware of.  We are brought up with a lot of “limiting beliefs” of what is actually possible.  These limiting beliefs are hidden in our subconscious and can remain hidden unless something is actively done to uncover and eliminate these limiting beliefs. 
 
To give you an example of a limiting belief:
“I believe the man I am with is more important than I am and his needs comes before my own”

When I used to think this way, I would be the best girlfriend to my ex-boyfriends but none of them really respected me in the way I desire to be respected.  Only after I discovered that I did not respect my own needs was I able to attract a man who truly respects my needs.  This is an on-going struggle of mine.
 
In the case of your desire for your dream home, there are several questions you can consider asking yourself:
 
- do I really believe I can be living in my dream home?
- do I have some inherent fear at the back of my mind that I might not be able to manifest my dream home? 
- what are some of the things I have heard other people say that may influence my faith in manifesting my dream home?
 
2.  Do you think you are truly deserving of your dream home?
 
This is a very important idea to consider.  As women, we are often brought up to put other peoples’ needs ahead of our own and we may go through our entire lives giving instead of receiving.  Even when things are given to us, we may actually feel bad about it instead of feeling grateful.  I have a difficult time with this one myself.  It took me a long time to feel like I deserve something because on the subconscious level, I was afraid of wanting something and fearing that what I want might not come true simply because I didn’t believe I deserved something.
 
To answer your question about the cause of an intention not manifesting the way you want it to manifest, I also have some ‘opinions’ to offer:
 
As hard as this may seem, there is no right and wrong in the universe.  Judgement is not the true essence of God.  I personally believe in reincarnation and that the physical body is only a temporary shelter of our spirit.  Whatever we choose to do becomes a lesson learned by our spirit.  In the world of spirits, lessons learned are more important than what is right or wrong.  Feeling guilty or fearing that you might do something wrong only creates a hidden level of resistance to aligning your desires with their physical manifestation. 
 
One funny thing I realized is that I am not always given what I thought I have asked for.  For example,  In 2006, I had set an intention that I would like to make $100,000/year by the end of 2007.  The end of 2007 came around and my tax form clearly spelled out that I had only earned $40,000.  However, it came to my realization that I had gotten married that year and my combined income with my husband amount to approximately $100,000!!  So, I didn’t actually make $100,000 by myself, but I now have $100,000 in combined income with my husband in the year 2007.  The universe really have very funny ways of giving me what I wanted in the least expected ways.
 
Also, when I wasn’t given something that I thought I want, something better or more appropriate usually comes along some how.  The universe seem to have some level of wisdom I do not have to figure out how things can be best manifested for me.  Sometimes we will never find out why certain things are not manifested and sometimes we can only discover the universe’s true wisdom in hinsight.
 
In conclusion, you can NEVER do anything wrong.  What you CAN do is to spend some time examining your limiting beliefs and fears (and it is not wrong to have them either, you are simply programmed with them as you were growing up).  If something doesn’t happen to you exactly the way you want it, have faith that the best solutions will present itself to you.  Having the faith that you deserve anything you desire is one thing you can do to put yourself in alignment with what you want. 
 
Lastly, a bit of homework if you are up to it.  Make a visioning board of your dream home, or a big list of what you want in your dream home.  Take 5~15 minutes before you go to sleep and the moment you wake up to visualize what it might look like and visualize yourself ‘living’ in it :)  This is a difficult exercise, I must be honest that I have yet to reach the level of discipline to do such daily visualization exercises.  I know if I did, all my intentions will manifest so quickly I probably wouldn’t know what to do with myself.
 
I really enjoyed writing to you.  You give me so much inspiration to write.  I have never thought of myself as much of a writer since English is my second language but man, you got me all fired up!!  
 
With Love,
 
May

May Chu, RN, BSN.
Professional Student,
Department of Spiritual and Personal Development,
Life University.

 

At the beginning of March I made an intention that I wanted to attract $5000 into my life.  I didn’t know how this was going to happen.  My husband wasn’t doing a lot of work that gets him paid and when he does, his contracting company takes forever to pay him.  While I am a nurse, I dislike working so much that I haven’t really gone in to work.  In fact, I am seriously thinking about quitting nursing because I truly believe it is draining a lot of my energy from doing the things I really want to do.

Every week on Sunday, I sit down to plan my week on a excel form I called my “weekly intentions” where I state the things I will complete for the upcoming week towards accomplishing my goal and I also include a section where I write down all the things I request from the universe.  I remember writing down on my weekly intentions that I really wanted to attract $5000 into my life.  On the very same week, I found out I was pregnant and called my dad in Taiwan telling him he is having another grandchild on the way.  He was so happy that he immediately wired $2500 into my bank account.  The next day after that, my husband got a $2900 cheque in the mail.  The total amount of money that arrived that week amounted to $5400!!  I was ecstatic!

I thought I really should be taking setting intentions more seriously.  I have been reading a book by Napoleon Hill called “Think and Grow Rich” and recognizing that one must truly believe that they are already rich before they can actually manifest that into physical reality.  Due to my financial situation of not having enough positive cash-flow into the house, I spent a lot of time thinking about going in debt and having negative cash-flow.  Then, I went to a real estate investment seminar a woman who became a real estate multi-millionaire within 2 years and taught many others to do the same.  During that seminar, I had a sudden realization…

I AM RICH!

That’s right, I am really richer than I thought, I have a positive networth of $114,000 that I can draw from starting today to focus on a business my husband and I are building.  I realize that our thoughts are funny things, while my financial situation has not changed at all, I am suddenly feeling so much richer than I was a few weeks ago.  I know this will do wonders for my financial future because at this very moment, I feel so abundant, I cannot even believe I didn’t have enough money. 

I have decided that I am going to shamelessly ask for what I want and get ready to receive manifested intentions joyfully.  Here are some of my intentions:

I intend to:

• be deeply in love with my husband Dobes

• live in harmony with my husband and children

• have beautiful, conscious children

• attract $10,000,000 in positive networth by December 2011

• live in a penthouse suite with 4 bedrooms and beautiful mountain views

• be an inspirational speaker / author to inspire people to recognize their limited beliefs and create the lives they want

• speak to children about the power of positive intentions and giving them the tools to transform themselves and the world.

• create scholarship funds and make donations to allow children to participate in extracurricular activities such as music and sports (I personally was a recipient of these funds and the traveling I got to do really left lasting memories in my mind).

Recently, a person who read my blog shared with me that he would really like to manifest a BMW.  Ever since he shared his dream with me, every time I see a BMW, I think of this guy who really wants to have a BMW.  I am sure if enough people thought of him every time they see a BMW, he could manifest a BMW much sooner! 

For those who are reading my blog, what are some of your intentions?  Please take a moment to leave a comment and share your intentions to the universe so that we can send our positive energies your way.

 

I bet this is a hot topic for many people.  Who doesn’t know someone who is trying to lose weight?

I have been thinking about losing weight for the last 18 months.  Ever since I met my husband, I have been steadily gaining weight and feeling self conscious about it.  It really doesn’t help that I have a twin sister who is 20 lbs lighter than me despite having a kid merely 5 months ago.

Therefore, with my focus to lose weight, I have decided to increase my level of physical activity beginning with playing volleyball twice a week starting in January of this year.  I played volleyball competitively twice a week and signed up to do yoga once a week. 

I remember I lost about 4 lbs and then I started gaining weight again!  That’s right, I couldn’t believe it, I was playing so much volleyball and working so hard.  All I wanted to accomplish is to lose weight and be like my twin sister.

Then I watched the movie The Secret again and realized what I did wrong.  Instead of manifesting weight loss, I manifested weight gain because all I was focusing on is “weight”.  The subcsious really could not tell the difference between me wanting weight or not wanting weight, all it knows is “I want more of something to do with weight“.

By the time I realized this and took a good look at myself in the mirror, I was horrified to note that I had gain a few more pounds that actually made me look a bit pregnant.  Seriously, I thought, “what kind of weight manifesting have I done?!  Now my boobs are bigger and my tummy is starting to stick out.”

I became suspiscious about the growing boobs and did a pregnancy test even though I had just gone off the pill and it turned out to be POSITIVE!  I am pregnant!!

The universe has a funny way of giving me things it thinks I am asking for.  Since I have been thinking so much about my weight it actually gave me a way to manifest some serious weight gain (at least 35 to 45 lbs).  Thank you Universe!

:P

I am not sure if I should consider this a manifestation success or a manifestation flop.  After all, I was focusing on my weight and the universe gave me everything I focused my attention to.  Now I will have to accept my growing body and forget about losing weight all together. 

Sigh, so much for losing weight!