The last frontier of personal development

Posted on September 13, 2011 by May Chu

I have been putting much energy into personal and spiritual development for the last 5 years.  Overall, I think I have transformed myself in many ways.  Here are some of the more visible transformations I can think of:

  • I am less of a Drama Queen then I used to be.
  • I can recognize when I am acting out of ego or from my true self
  • I have fewer negative thoughts than I used to
  • I am living a wonderful life with my husband and children

However, I can’t say that I am done with my work on personal and spiritual development. I have yet to pass the last obstacle of being truly self actualized:

That obstacle is: MY MOTHER

I have always had issues dealing with her.  I don’t want to get rambling on the “stories” I made up about her behavior.  All I can say is that all of the hell I experienced in my childhood came from her.  I must say that all the hell she put me through allowed me to draw from my own wisdom from an early age, being able to tell what is right and wrong.

Her presence will no doubt draw on some of the most dormant pain bodies I have.  She is coming to Taiwan in a few weeks and already I am fearing some of the possibilities of bad things happening.  The thought of her presence takes me out of my comfort zone immediately.

While I would love to give her all the responsibility of why I am not present, my wisdom tells me the answer to harmonious co-existence with my mother lies within.  Perhaps this is the very reason I should welcome her presence instead of fearing it.  What’s the point of doing all these personal and spiritual development courses when I can’t co-exist peacefully with my mother?  It is time to put some of my skills to work :P

 

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Thank you for changing MY life

Posted on September 1, 2011 by May Chu

Dear Cathy,

I was riding the scooter home after our talk together and I felt the urge to write you an email.  When I got home, I thought I would share my thoughts on my blog so that other people can also see this.

I want to take this opportunity to Thank “YOU” for changing my life.  You might find this surprising because you may have thought you were the one who told me today that “I” had change your life.  But the truth is, you have changed my life too.

Let me explain…

In a previous post, I have shared a hypnotism session I had with my friend Suzy.  In this session, I had revealed to myself my purpose in life (you can click on the link if you are interested).  While my purpose in life is to make a difference for others by just being myself, I rarely have confirmation that I have succeeded in carrying out my purpose.  Even if I had, I found it hard to accept.  Perhaps I had issues giving myself credit for making a difference for people.  When you told me, “I have changed / transformed because of you.” I was very touched, I felt a shiver from head to toe.  I was unable to share this with you at that moment because I couldn’t really understand what I was feeling, I didn’t understand enough to explain to you that something had happened inside me.

When I was riding home on my scooter, I had time to ground my energy and realizing that you had made my dreams come true: I made a difference in someone’s life.

Therefore, I need to acknowledge the difference YOU are making in my life.  You made my visit to Taiwan worthwhile.  I had almost forgotten about my purpose of coming to Asia and you reminded me of what I am here to do.

You had told me that some of your friends are interested in meeting me.  I realized that I was shying away from that request because I was not confident I can make a difference for them.  I thought perhaps I wouldn’t be able to meet their high expectations.  But I now know that was my ego talking, not me.

I feel a bit scared and out of my own element.  People ask me to teach them and I would tell them I don’t know what to teach, I don’t have any teaching materials…blah blah blah.  I had simply forgotten that just being myself was good enough.

Thank you Cathy :)

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The Journey Begins

Posted on August 6, 2011 by May Chu

Today I took another step towards fulfilling my purpose here in Taiwan.  In my previous post, I spoke about facilitating my first little seminar on the topic of the law of attraction after showing the movie The Secret in my apartment complex.  I had initially feared that no one will show up but I have proven those fears to be unfounded.

When I first suggested playing The Secret in our shared movie theater, the secretary at my apartment complex told me attendance is usually very poor for movie showings.  This proved to be untrue today.  While there were some empty seats, the theater was quite full.  In fact, people kept coming in as the movie was playing and some had to sit in the very front row.  I even had requests of people wanting to borrow the movie after it had finished playing to watch it at home because they couldn’t make it to the 7:30 pm showing.

There were about 10 people at the little question and answer period after the movie.  I remember visualizing myself sitting with some like minded people and having a great chat and that was exactly what happened.  They wanted to me to join them in their book reading club and they will be reading “The Power of Now” starting Tuesday.  I remember telling Dobes that it is not teaching others about how to be happy, my role is to teach people how NOT to be unhappy by showing them the existence of their ego and pain bodies.

The universe shows me every step of my journey towards fulfilling my purpose in interesting and exciting ways.  I can’t wait to see what it will show me next :).

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The Purpose

Posted on August 5, 2011 by May Chu

Today has been a philosophical day.  I started the day having breakfast with Dobes and talking about how time is not linear — how our past, present, and future coexist with each other in the present (this will have to be explained in another blog post).  Then I went to the mall and had lunch by myself.  While I was having lunch, I started listening to an audio book by Deepak Chopra called, “The Book of Secrets”, where he spoke about the relative importance of knowing your purpose in life and being happy.  Chopra asserted that knowing your purpose (and carrying it out) is a big part of being happy.  His suggested if we focus on being aware of ourselves, our bodies and our feelings, we will find our inner wisdom.

Then I was chatting with a woman in my community while our kids played with each other and she revealed to me that she feels empty because she doesn’t know what she should do with her life.

This made me think back to the days when I did not know my purpose.  I wandered aimlessly from one job to another, one academic area to another searching for my purpose.  Not many people are born knowing exactly why they are here.  I certainly did not have that clarity myself.  I found it hard to just be and accept my current reality at the time.   If I could travel back in time to give myself a piece of advice, I would tell myself to be present and keep my eyes and heart open for clues.

My higher self presented me with my purpose when I was 26.  I watched The Secret and attended the Landmark Forum.  I had embarked on my journey of personal and spiritual development.  At the time I had thought to myself, I wanted to teach in the field of personal development, but I really doubted my worth as a teacher.  I thought I had nothing to prove.  I didn’t have a man, I didn’t have a good job, I didn’t have any money.  I didn’t have anything I wanted so I thought I didn’t really qualify to be a teacher in the field of personal development.  It took me 5 years of manifesting things I wanted in my life for me to really believe in myself.

I suggested to this woman that she may want to consider paying more attention to her own feelings and synchronized events in her life.  I explained that this may be how God communicates with us.  She told me that she doesn’t want to toy around with things that are not scientific because she doesn’t want to be superstitious.

I remember feeling taken aback by her response.  Does she want to know her purpose in life or not? Does she really want to escape her current state of feeling empty with her life? Then I realized I was being judging and those thoughts stemmed from my ego and not my true loving higher self.  If I was to look at this situation without judgment, this woman had already begun her path of seeking her purpose.  She spoke about it to me, she was sitting there with me.  As a teacher it is up to me to be patient with her and be there to ask her questions and answer any questions she may have for me.   I am not there to judge how she thinks.

Next time, I will focus on what I am good at — Asking Questions.

 

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It’s been awhile

Posted on August 4, 2011 by May Chu

A lot has happened since I last wrote a post, I have moved to Taiwan and settled here.  I have longed to come here for awhile now.  I think it must have been about a year ago when I started to have the idea of living in the Orient and now it has become a reality.  The question that continues to plague me on a daily basis is “why am I here?”  There must be a reason why I wanted to be here.

Deep down inside, I feel like I am here because people need to hear what I have to say.  I want to teach people about the law of attraction and how break free of their limiting beliefs.  I sometimes doubt myself and I would think, “Why me?  There are tons of great teachers around.” In these moments of doubt I would remind myself that there are simply not enough teachers around. Different types of students tend to be attracted to different types of teachers.  No matter what kind of students are out there, there will be some that will appreciate me!

I am sharpening my Mandarin in preparation for teaching people here.  I bought The Secret DVD in Chinese so I can learn how things are translated here.  I am playing this movie at the apartment complex I live in this coming Saturday and Sunday and holding a little gathering after the movie for anyone who has questions.

I must admit I feel a little bit scared that no one will show up. Maybe this is pure ego, I don’t want to look bad.  With this awareness I know that even if there was no one there I would not take it personally because it would have nothing to do with who I am or my success as a teacher in personal / spiritual development.  Anyone who has ever started something new may have once feared of failure.  A person starting a business may fear that there will be no customers, a teacher starting a class may fear that there will be no students.

If one person shows up, I will teach one person, if no one shows up, I will go home and teach my son and tell him a bed time story about attracting his favorite snacks :P

 

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I am moving to Taiwan

Posted on April 23, 2011 by May Chu

In preparation of my move to Taiwan, I made a preliminary “scouting” trip to Taiwan to find a place to live for my family before moving everyone over.  I will be living in the city of Taichung.

Accommodations

After 2 days of intense searching and looking at places to live, I have settled on a 4 bedroom apartment in downtown Taichung.  It is located right across from the municipal government of Taichung building and within walking distance to shopping and food.

The building has an official website: www.uptown.com.tw
It is a complex of 400 units that share some amenities together.  They seem to have a quite a community there and has a online photo album of pictures from community activities:

http://www.hometown.org.tw/blog/n23136757/blogAlbumAction.do?pagingType=1&maxRecord=8&recordCount=16&currentPage=2&method=doListAlbum

They also have some pictures of the amenities available:

http://www.hometown.org.tw/blog/n23136757/blogAlbumAction.do?method=doListAlbumImages&albumId=14360

Interior photos of the unit are available with the following link: http://rent.591.com.tw/rent-detail-869548.html

Initially when I visited the actual unit I was not sold on it.  It has four bedrooms and fully furnished with beds, but one of the bedrooms is small and does not have air conditioning.  Taiwan is a very hot place and air conditioning is a must.  I was going to leave without considering the unit because of the air conditioning issue.  Then as I was leaving, I asked if there were any amenities and the landlord took us to see the amenities and then I was SOLD!

I am really kicking myself for forgetting to take pictures of the amenities but maybe Dobes and kids will be pleasantly surprised when they see the amenities.  Here are some of the amenities available:

  • Full size outdoor swimming pool
  • Indoor kids play area complete with a two slides down to a ball pen full of balls (did I mention this is indoor and air conditioned?)
  • Two banquet halls for holding parties
  • Lots of lounges with comfy couches to hang out
  • a Internet room for the kids
  • A movie theater (I didn’t get to look inside because a movie was playing at the time) that plays different movies on a weekly basis for the community.
  • A table tennis from for people to play pingpong when they wanted to
  • An exercise room with hardwood floors and mirrors for practicing dancing / yoga
  • A gym complete with excellent exercise equipments, treadmill, elliptical… and a panel of flat screen TVs to keep you entertained while you exercise
  • Lots of SPACE for kids to run around in

I have yet to see a place with amenities as complete as this place and I know everyone in the family will enjoy these amenities.  Apparently the complex is home to many foreign professionals on assignment to Taiwan.  Those people usually get way bigger and luxurious units but they use the same amenities as we will.  This means the possibility of meeting people who may speak English and well educated professionals to converse with.

The landlord is also very nice to provide us with all the furniture we need and move away all the furniture we do not need.  This is hard to come by as I had met a lot of residence from the landlords when I requested that they remove the old beds in the apartments I have looked at.  Space is of the essence in Taiwan and most landlords will have no place to put the furniture.  I was happy that they were so cooperative and I look forward to have just mattresses on the floors so that the kids can sleep safely.

Drawbacks

As I had previously mentioned, there are some draw backs to this place.  One of which is the non-air conditioned office (a smaller room I thought would be perfect for Cedric).  To live there means that I will have to personally fork out the money to install the air-conditioning.  Something that will cost about $400 CAD.  But the amenities and the possible social interactions available in the building made me overlook the initial cost of installing air conditioning in one room.

Another draw back is that this place is not that close to the Kindergarten Dante will be attending.  It is about a 5 minute car ride away. However, I was told that each Kindergarten has a Kiddie Bus that goes around and picks up the kids in the morning and drop them off in the afternoon.  The Kiddie Bus is equipped with their own “teacher” on board.  I had initially thought of sending Cedric to part time daycare too but I think I will wait until he can board a Kiddie Bus on his own with his brother.

This building is located on a very busy street in Taichung.  It can be quite noisy and I am sure pollution may be an issue.  Gonna need those air filters I tell you…But I can honestly say that there is no quite city in Taiwan.  If we wanted to live somewhere quiet, we will need to live in the mountains.

There are not a lot of restaurants immediately outside of the building.  I saw only one place to take out food, but within walking distance (like one block away) there are all the things Dobes and I enjoy:

  • Tempenyaki: Japanese hot plate stirfry
  • Western food like steak and pasta
  • The best and most posh foot spa in Taichung for acupressure foot massage and body massage
  • A supermarket where we can shop for groceries
  • There are also other food available like Japanese and other cuisines  I have yet to explore it all but I know there are all there.  Did I mention a Japanese hot stone hot pot place?
  • 2 or 3 large blocks away (within 10 minutes walk) there is Tiger City, a shopping mall complete with the largest movie theater in Taiwan.  I know Dobes and I haven’t been going out to movies much since having kids, but with a movie theater within walking distance, I am sure movie watching will be possible again.

My main concerns

My main concerns about Taichung or Taiwan in general is the pollution.  Everyone here has this distinct look on their face where there are black freckles on their faces (especially around the cheek area) and their facial colour look a bit like grey ash.  Yes, sounds very scary but it is true.  I have been here for two days and already I can see areas of my face being affected by the pollution.  I will have to go for weekly facials that will hyper-oxygenate my face to see if I can avoid looking older than I actually am.  I am also having some kind of allergy on my skin, areas of red dots on my extremities (I guess those areas are more visible to me) which will go away if I take an anti-histamine (allergy medication).  This is one area that will make a permanent stay in Taiwan less desirable.  Despite the conveniences and good food, I know I will probably want to move back to Canada in about a year.  When I go back to Canada in a week, I know I will truly appreciate the nature trail right beside the house I am selling and the fresh air I breathe.

I have not sign a rental contract with the owners yet because I would like my husband to read this blog post first before I do so :P

I must admit, I like making these big life decisions.  This is exciting :)

 

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Millionaire Quote

Posted on March 26, 2011 by May Chu

Inspiration Quote of the Day:

If I do everything I said I would do, I would be a millionaire.  May Chu

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I want to be a Thought Leader

Posted on March 23, 2011 by May Chu

Today I was going for a walk with Dobes and telling him how I am now getting more and more clarity as to what I would like to do next in my professional life.  I need a way to make a lot of money fast but I wasn’t sure how.  I don’t have any products to sell yet.  I can offer my services but I don’t think this is something I would like to do because it is not scalable in the long run.  I guess I can offer services in consulting but I know that it is not a long term solution.

I realized that I wanted to be a thought leader.  Someone like Eckhart Tolle or Seth Godin. Not that I have a perfect idea on what I wanted to do right away nor any idea how I am going to be able to generate a lot of income right away but I guess I need to start somewhere.  The universe rewards clarity and that is what I need to spend my time on.

Somehow, I think being a thought leader would require me to open myself for “downloads” of information I can share with people to motivate and inspire them.  Something along these lines…

I think I would like to be speaking to women entrepreneurs or female professionals.  How, I don’t know yet :P

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I am already RICH!

Posted on January 17, 2011 by May Chu

I just want to do a quick few lines to capture how I feel at this very moment:

I am already Rich!

Even though I am having some problems on the work front, I feel very abundant.  Since I feel so abundant, I know that the issues I am dealing with at work will eventually resolve itself and whatever happens will point me to an abundant path where I can make all the money that I need to have the experiences I want to have here.

So, problems on the business front?  No problem!  I am confident the guides and universe will sort it out as long as I feel abundant :)

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Did it work?

Posted on December 30, 2010 by May Chu

Previously on a blog post called A Promise to Myself, I had made a deal with my higher self to write down my thoughts in order to stop coughing through the night.  The next day I write 3 blog posts in a matter of hours and miraculously I stopped coughing through the night.  However, the next day, I started coughing a little bit again and I thought to myself, “Man, I really have to write every single day if I was to stop this cough.  I simply have too much to say…”

So far, I haven’t cough through the night since I wrote those blog posts but I would like to get rid off this cough for good and my only strategy so far is to keep writing.

I am having a bit less free time lately because I have been dedicating up to 3 hours a day doing Bikram’s Yoga.  By the time I come home from yoga I feel like my day is done and I hardly accomplished anything else.  Maybe in time I will be more organized with my time.

However, I don’t regret spending the time to do the Yoga.  After all, I do have an over arching goal of being hot this year and if that takes 3 hours a day, I’ll have to work everything else around that.  So far, I have lost about 3 lbs but I have lost 5 inches around the waist.  I couldn’t believe my eyes when I went from a 38 inch waist to a 33 inch waist.  Incredible!

I think if people are serious about something, their actions will reflect that.  The fact that I have kept up the frequency of going to Hot Yoga at least 3 times per week for the last month shows the universe that I am serious about making a difference.  I do also have to be more disciplined about not eating after 7 pm.

I’ll keep you updated as I go along!

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